Sinzi niba ababyeyi barabonye ko mugihe umwana afite imyaka 2, azahita ashishikazwa cyane nabacukuzi.By'umwihariko, umuhungu ashobora kuba adashobora kwibanda ku gukina imikino mu bihe bisanzwe, ariko iyo ahuye na moteri ikora kumuhanda, iminota 20 yo kureba ntabwo ihagije.Ntabwo aribyo gusa, ahubwo abana bakunda ibikinisho byimodoka nka moteri.Niba ababyeyi bababajije icyo bashaka gukora nibakura, birashoboka ko bazabona igisubizo cy "umushoferi ucukura".
Kuki abana kwisi yose basa nkaho bakunda gucukumbura?Kuri iyi weekend, lisansi, umwanditsi azavugana nababyeyi kubyerekeye ubumenyi buke inyuma y "umusore munini".Umucukuzi arashobora kandi gufasha ababyeyi kumva neza isi yimbere.
Kuki abana bakunda gucukura?
1. Shimisha umwana "icyifuzo cyo kurimbura"
Muri psychologiya, abantu basanzwe ari abanyamahane kandi barasenya, kandi imbaraga zo "gusenya" ziva mubitekerezo.Kurugero, imikino myinshi ya videwo abantu bakuru bakunda gukina ntaho itandukaniye no guhangana no gutera.
"Kurimbuka" nabwo ni bumwe mu buryo abana bazenguruka isi.Ababyeyi barashobora gusanga iyo abana bafite imyaka 2 bakina nibice byubaka, ntibaba banyuzwe nibyishimo byo kubaka.Bahitamo gusunika hasi inyubako inshuro nyinshi.Ihinduka ryimiterere nuburyo ibintu byatewe no gusunika hasi inyubako bizatera umwana kumva inshuro nyinshi, kandi bibafashe kubona umunezero no kugeraho.
Muri kiriya gihe, abana bagaragaje ko bashishikajwe cyane n ibikinisho bitandukana kandi bakunda gufungura no kubihindura.Iyi myitwarire "yangiza" mubyukuri nigaragaza iterambere ryubwenge no gutekereza kwabana.Basobanukiwe nibigize ibintu binyuze mu gusenya no guterana inshuro nyinshi, kandi bagashakisha isano itera imyitwarire.
Uburyo imashini ikora nububasha bwayo bukomeye bwo gusenya ihaza "icyifuzo cyo kurimbuka" kumarangamutima, kandi iyi "nyangabirama" nini ishobora kumvikanisha urusaku irashobora kandi kubyutsa amatsiko umwana kandi ikabakurura amaso.
2. Kumva kugenzura n'imbaraga bihuye n'icyifuzo cy'umwana
Umwana amaze kwimenya, azakunda cyane kuvuga "ntukore" kandi akenshi arwanya ababyeyi be.Rimwe na rimwe, niyo yaba yiteguye gutega amatwi ababyeyi be, agomba kubanza kuvuga "ntukore".Kuri iki cyiciro, umwana yizera ko ashobora gukora byose nkababyeyi be.Ashaka gukora byose wenyine.Agerageza kubona ubwigenge binyuze mubikorwa bimwe na bimwe no kwerekana ubushobozi bwe kubabyeyi.
Hamwe no kumva ko agenzura ibintu biri hafi, umwana azumva ko ari umuntu wigenga.Kubwibyo, murwego rwo kwifuza kumva ko afite imbaraga nimbaraga, umwana akururwa byoroshye nimbaraga zerekanwa na moteri.Dogiteri Carla Marie Manly, umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze ya muntu w’umunyamerika, yizera ko impamvu ituma abana bakunda ibikinisho by’ibikinisho by’ibintu binini cyane bishobora kuba ari uko bumva bafite imbaraga zo kugenzura no gukomera ku giti cyabo binyuze mu gutunga izo verisiyo nto.
Mubyukuri, ababyeyi barashobora gusanga abana badashishikajwe gusa nubucukuzi, nka dinosaur, King Monkey, superheroes, abamikazi ba Disney, ariko kandi bakunda aya mashusho akomeye cyangwa meza.Cyane cyane iyo yinjiye mukumenyekanisha (mubisanzwe hafi yimyaka 4), umwana azakina cyangwa atekereza ko ari umuntu ukunda cyangwa inyamaswa.Kubera ko umwana atarakusanyije uburambe nubuhanga bihagije mugihe cyo guharanira ubwigenge, kandi imikurire ye kumubiri no mumutwe ntabwo ikuze, ntashobora gukora ibintu byinshi.Kandi amashusho atandukanye mumashusho cyangwa mubikorwa byubuvanganzo arashobora gusa guhura nibyifuzo byabo byo mumitekerereze yo gukomera no kuba manini, kandi birashobora gutuma umwana yumva afite umutekano.
Igihe cyo kohereza: Nzeri-22-2022